Noelle Mountain

Anyone who is a parent of more than one child knows it can be a bit tough juggling their attention between the two; especially if you have a child who is eager to share his every accomplishment. Lachlan is a great big brother but he certainly can have his moments when he doesn't want his sister be involved in anything. This is a part of the adaption process when you are no longer the only child; sharing affections and objects with others can seem 'not so fun.'

A few weeks ago we had a week or two straight were Lachlan just didn't want Noelle next to us when we were playing together. She of course is a baby and likes stimulation and interaction, after all she is human! I always have her sitting in her bouncy seat or plopped ever so snuggly in our bean bag chair so she can hear and watch us play. I always look at her and ask her questions when role playing just as I do with Lachlan. Noelle is a happy baby and will never disappoint-she always gives a smile and giggle back.

The other day I made the mistake of showing Noelle a train while Lachlan and I were playing. He did not like this. These are his trains, of course, not some slobbery baby's! I explained to him not to worry. She's just looking at it, she's too little to ply with his toys...yet! Well, to Lachlan, simply looking at the train was unacceptable. I obeyed his request as I didn't want a jealous rage to begin and Noelle, certainly cared none the less. This reaction went on for a week and finally I decided we are going to make Noelle a positive association when it comes to play, not a negative one. If I can convince him that Noelle has something to offer by being around, he'll be more likely to accept it. So you might be asking, "what does a drooly, baby that sits around like a sack of potatoes have to offer?" Well, I'll tell you...

So Lachlan and I being playing trains as usual. He's 'Lady' and I am 'Rosie.' (from the Thomas and Friends collection, just in case you aren't in the steamie groove). Noelle is sitting quietly on the bean bag chair and all is good. She's being her sweet and most gassy self as usual...Just smiling away (probably the gas...) I ask Lachlan, I mean 'Lady' where we should go today? He says to the zoo. So to the zoo we chug. "Chug Chug Chug" we go merrily along. "Oh, wait! What is this?" I ask. Lachlan looks at me in anticipation of what is to come. 'Rosie' approached the bean bag chair and Noelle. "Why it is a mountain!" Lachlan likes this. "It is Noelle mountain!" I exclaim. "Shall we go up it?" Lachlan replies with an "oh, yes, mommy!"

So up, up we go. Up Noelle mountain. We reach the top above Noelle's head. "What do you see down there?" Lachlan says, "O-elle!"
"That's right! Noelle! A giant baby!!" Lachlan laughs in excitement. I ask if we should drive out trains down to talk to this massive baby in the middle of the mountain. He is very keen. We drive halfway down next to Noelle's shoulder.

"Hi baby!" I say. "We like your mountain! Would you like something?" I ask Lachlan what we could give this big baby. He suggestes some apples so off we chug down the mountain to get some pretend apples and make our journey back up to Noelle.

"Here O-elle!" says Lachlan as he gives her some pretend apples. "Want some water, too?" he asks. "I think she does," I reply and down the mountain we go again.

This continued for almost an hour. I was so pleased to seem him being a willing participant in a play session with his sister. Of course, he thought it was all about him as toddlers do, but makes no difference! Now every day Lachlan asks me if we can go up Noelle mountain. Not only does he bring her pretend food, he's begun bringing her a teether as well when she's upset (she has two little teeth popping up!)

All it takes is some creative thinking and positive associations and you can foster a great sibling relationship. It also takes time. For some, a lot of time, but they'll get there. Rome wasn't built in a day they say and for some children, a good relationship isn't either. Patience, patience! :)

One with the Animals

I know, I know. It has been a really long time since I've been blogging. I have been tracking Lachie's development as usual- taking the normal 100 photos a week lol! I've been very slack about getting on the computer and putting those thoughts into cyberspace. As you can imagine things have been busy in the house with Lachlan well into his toddler days and his new sister to arrive in less than six weeks. We've been focusing a lot on that transition and making sure our house, Lachlan and mommy and dad are all ready. Exciting days ahead.

I have a lot of catching up to do with this blog but I thought I would start with sharing something simple as my creative juices are a bit stagnant these days due to of mommy brain, baby brain and sleep deprivation: a dangerous concoction. It's amazing how quickly one can go from coming across as a seemingly intelligent and evolved person to a clueless neanderthal. I have found myself scratching my head one too many times looking for something that is so obviously right in front of me!

I suppose since I have been stuck in a bit of 'primitive' thinking mode, it might have lead to the desire to spend a lot of time around those closer to my recent simplistic way of thinking. What could be better than becoming a Zoo Friend! Yes, we did. We bought an annual pass for our city zoo, which is actually run by the conservation society so it is non-profit and all research based; that is something to feel good about- otherwise, nothing makes me feel good about going to the zoo; being the ex-wildlife biologist major I have issues with the majority of zoos but that is not what this blog is about so let's move on to the happy stuff...like giraffes!

Giraffes. They are the most fascinating animals to Lachlan at the zoo (at the moment). They were actually one of the first animals that he recognised visually as a baby because there was a picture of a giraffe in numerous of his infant cloth books and I always emphasised the giraffe as having a "loooong neck." They really are beautiful and amazing creatures with lovely patches and a unique gait. At the zoo they come up very close to the fence where they feed. It is a nice surprise for Lachlan to catch them during feeding time. We've been to the zoo twice this year and a visit to the giraffe enclosure is a must for Lachie. He insists on it. The idea is for us to go and relax and take ourtime walking around and just see a few parts of the zoo each visit. We do this but we must always rush over to see the giraffes before we leave for the day. Of course the giraffes have to be at the top of the very hilly zoo--but I'm pregnant and need the exercise I suppose so I shouldn't complain.

Wading pool

The zoo is a fun place for children and if it is a good quality zoo which has a focus on educating the public, there will be a lot of opportunities to learn a few things; whether it be hands-on encounters, interactive screens or basic literature posted. Be sure to read this information and interpret it back to your child in a way that they can understand. Use the excursion as a way for them to also make connections; such as: "look at the giraffes. they are the same as in your story book" or " the platypus has a bill and webbed fit like a duck but it has fur instead of feathers!" All of this exciting information allows them to piece their surrounding together and to think about what they are hearing and seeing. Before you know it your child will be asking "why?" You might not know the answer which is okay. Be honest. If you don't know why a platypus has fur say so. Encourage more problem-solving skills for your child by using provocation. "I don't know why. How do you think we could find out?" Your child might respond with numerous answers: maybe there is a sign, we could ask the zoo keeper, look on the internet, go to the library, ask daddy, etc. Asking your child how to go about getting answers is an excellent way to assist them in problem-solving an invaluable component to not only cognitive development but also emotional intelligence.

I'm wet! Now what?

One thing that we never do in our house is to 'leave learning' at the place of origin. Your child of course has learned something and will carry that with him; the best gift of all. As parents, it is important that we help them expand on what they have learned for the day; especially if they show an interest. Lachlan loves animals so it is obvious for us that when we get home we will discuss more about the animals that we saw, particularly the ones that we couldn't pull him away from. Our last trip to the zoo, it was the giraffes, zebras and the leopard seal. When we got home I asked him if he'd like to look at some pictures of what we saw today. He was very eager. Now this is where all those zoo handouts you would normally chuck in the recycle bin come in handy. Save them and cut out the animals to make a collage. Let your child practice cutting if he is able or  he can try tearing around the animal. If he needs help then assist him. Talk about the animals; what sounds they make, their features and where they live. Glue them onto a piece of paper. If your child likes to work with letters like Lachlan, find the words of the animals or letters that begin with the animals' names and glue them on the paper as well. When completed let your child hang up the collage in the house where he can refer back to it for reference. We had our collage up for about two weeks, where Lachlan continually pointed to the animals and shared a thought.

Jungle Scene

I Spy the letter C!

Another animal idea...Last week my brother-in-law got married and we were sent home with a huge floral table arrangement which had various tropical leaves. Before I throw anything out I always look at it and think about what I could use to integrate into Lachlan's day. I came up with the idea of making a jungle scene for Lachie using the leaves. I grabbed a tray for easy portability, stuck the stems of the leaves and branches into some play dough and created a little jungle. I grabbed some of Lachlan's animals, called him over and he was delighted at what he saw. Right away he began walking his animals through the trees. He even made the giraffe, frog and zebra much on the leaves. Eventually he told me that they needed water. I asked him what we could make water with? We opened our art cabinet and found some scraps of blue paper, placed them in a lid and created a water hole; just like the one in so many of his favourite African story books. We had more of a jungle going on with 'savannah' animals but who cares? It is a time for imagination not specifics; speaking of which, our jungle eventually ended up with a choo-choo train, a boom gate and the letter 'C' which Lachlan created out of a red pipe cleaner. He had fun on and off for about a day and a half with the scene; adding new components.

So always think twice before you toss something--I always say the best things for your children are in your recycling bin! I'll try to post more soon and definitely something about my little man's birthday as he is two years old today! Where does the time go? We had an exciting time yesterday on the ferry and train and woke up this morning a few gifts and a special breakfast. We'll look forward to doing more fun things after naptime and sharing a birthday brunch party with family this coming weekend.